The Inconvenient Numerator
By now, you’ve likely come to see it: most of your life is not lived in Actual / Expectation.
It’s lived in Desired / Expectation.
You’ve been trained—culturally, biologically, perhaps even spiritually—to operate with a forged numerator. Instead of inserting what actually happened, you insert what should have happened. A manufactured value. A fictional benchmark.
And this substitution has a name: desire.
It is not just some poetic impulse or inner craving. It is a mathematical corruption of the reality equation. And it produces suffering not because it is evil, but because it is false.
So the question is:
How do you stop doing it? How do you end desire?
The answer is simpler than expected.
It isn’t effort.
It isn’t resistance.
It isn’t discipline.
It’s completion.
The Trick: Completeness Ends Desire
Desire always disappears on its own when something feels complete.
You’ve seen this a thousand times:
- You’re hungry. You eat. The desire vanishes.
- You ache for a degree for four years. You graduate. The ache vanishes.
- You yearn for closure. It arrives. The yearning dissolves.
You never had to get rid of desire. It dissolved naturally in the presence of completion.
Desire only persists where completeness is absent.
And that’s the trick: the end of desire is not effort—it’s the experience of completion.
So if you want to stop writing a desired outcome into the numerator, don’t fight the urge. Don’t battle the fiction. Don’t moralize the process.
Instead, simply start noticing where you are already complete.
Actual Is Already There
Here’s the stunning truth: Actual is always available.
Technically speaking, she—the Immutable Past—is collapsing the wave function of the universe every moment. She never withholds. There is no delay. There is no uncertainty.
You always have access to Actual.
It is not hidden. It is not encrypted. It is not behind a spiritual paywall. You do not have to earn it. You only have to use it.
So why don’t you?
Because you believe something is incomplete.
You believe the moment isn’t enough. You believe something is missing. You believe that this cannot possibly be the full picture. And so you invent a number—a “desired outcome”—to fill in what you think she left out.
But she didn’t leave anything out.
She gave you everything.
The Illusion of Incompleteness
Desire is not born from what’s missing.
It’s born from the belief that something is missing.
That belief—like all beliefs—is just another idealized component in the denominator. It is not truth. It is influence. And it has no business in the numerator.
The numerator is sacred. It is the ground of reality. And it is already full.
Once you recognize that nothing needs to be added, the whole act of writing in a desired number becomes not just unnecessary—but absurd.
Why overwrite a perfect sentence?
Why repaint a finished canvas?
Why revise what’s already whole?
You don’t need to destroy desire. You only need to see that what is—is already complete.
Let It Be Done
To stop desire, say this:
“It is complete.”
“Actual is enough.”
“I receive what is.”
This is not passivity. This is precision.
It is the most accurate way to interact with the moment.
Let Actual stand.
Let Expectation resolve.
Let surprise happen.
Let feeling arise.
And then act—not from longing, but from gratitude.
You Came Here to Feel It All
You, as the seat of witness, came to this performance for one reason:
To feel the cosmic dance. To discover love—not as a concept, but as a lived ratio of surprise. That’s why you are in the audience. That’s why you volunteered to become a participant.
To insert your own numerator is to deny yourself the very experience you came for.
So if you want to stop desiring, stop trying to want less.
Just realize:
There is nothing missing.
It is already complete.
Actual is enough.
Then smile. Or cry. Or laugh.
But above all, feel it.
Because that’s what you’re here to do.
And once you feel that—it’s done.
Desire is gone.
It doesn’t end with effort.
It ends with completeness.