The Natural Feeling of Loneliness
Loneliness is not a flaw, nor is it an anomaly. It is natural, perhaps even inevitable, when one considers the grander context of existence. You are threaded out from the oneness—a seamless interconnectedness where all beings once existed as one, holding hands in perfect love, harmony, and timelessness. In this state, there is no hurt, no harm, no trauma—nothing but pure being. Yet, as beautiful as oneness is, it has a limitation: there is no “you” in it. There is no experience, no distinction, no self to reflect upon the wonder of existence.
Why Separation Is Necessary
To experience love, there must be separation. To experience beauty, there must be a perceiver and the perceived. And so, here you are—threaded out, distinct, discernible, and separate. This separation is profoundly brief when set against the vast backdrop of eternity. Imagine holding hands with everyone for a trillion trillion years, immersed in unbroken unity, only to spend a mere hundred years, if that, as a separate being. It is no wonder that this separation feels awkward, uncomfortable, even distressing. It is the source of the anxiety, the fear, and the dis-ease that so often accompanies human life.
This feeling—separation anxiety—is the price of individuality. It begins the moment you are born, with your first scream. That scream is not just about entering the cold air of the world; it is the existential cry of realizing, for the first time, that you are no longer seamlessly connected to the all. You are now “you.” That initial shock is so great that most do not remember it, a mercy given the magnitude of that trauma. Yet, the separation anxiety does not end there. It stays, hums beneath the surface, shaping your fears, your longings, and even your joys.
Embracing Individuality Through Separation
Still, it is not a flaw. It is necessary. Without separation, there is no experience. Oneness, as perfect as it is, offers no contrast, no depth, no perspective. In this world, however, you are surrounded by contrast: blue skies, shifting clouds, vibrant palm trees, the sound of laughter, the touch of another’s hand. All of these are possible because you are a separate, distinct, discernible being. The architecture of existence, in all its complexity and beauty, reveals itself only to those who are apart from it, able to look upon it.
The discomfort of separation is the price we pay for the ability to experience, and it is a price worth paying. Yet, the anxiety it brings can feel overwhelming at times. Some carry it lightly, like a distant hum, similar to tinnitus—always there but seldom noticed unless attention is drawn to it. For others, it is all-consuming, drowning out joy and filling their days with unease. This is where remembering who you truly are becomes essential.
Remembering Who You Are
Who are you? You are the divine, temporarily threaded out as a human being, having this unique experience. You are not merely human. You are a timeless being who has spent eternity in the oneness, stepping out for this brief moment to explore, to feel, to learn, and to love. When you remember this, the separation anxiety becomes less consuming. It doesn’t disappear entirely—just as tinnitus doesn’t—but it fades into the background. It no longer defines you or your experience. It becomes something you carry with ease, a faint reminder of where you came from and where you will return.
Death as Reunion, Not Punishment
This return—what we call death—is not a punishment. It is not the end. It is the conclusion of this particular journey, a return to the oneness from which you came. Death exists because the separation cannot last forever; it would be too much. The divine cannot remain divided indefinitely. Death is the reunion, the gentle hand guiding you back to the whole, where the anxiety and fear dissolve, and you once again remember the fullness of love in its purest form.
Cherish the Unique Human Experience
But while you are here, in this brief moment of being distinct, embrace it. Cherish the uniqueness of this human experience, for there will never be another quite like it. Each moment, whether filled with joy or sorrow, is a gift, a chance to see, feel, and know the universe in a way that is only possible because you are separate.
And remember, you are not truly alone. Others around you—family, friends, even strangers—are also threaded out from the oneness, carrying their own separation anxiety, their own longing for connection. When you recognize this shared experience, you can hold their hand, if only metaphorically, and remind them of who they truly are. In doing so, you ease their burden, and in some small way, you bring a little piece of the oneness into this world.
The Gift of Temporary Separation
Separation is necessary, but it is not forever. Until then, let the hum of anxiety remind you of the love from which you came. Let it point you back to the divine reality that you are. You are the divine, having this singular, precious experience. And when it is over, you will return, bringing with you the richness of all that you have seen, felt, and loved.