Loving Both

Embracing the Duality: A Journey from Fear to Love

There was a time in my life when I had a tumultuous relationship with the darker, more negative aspects of my nature. I used to treat these parts of me with disdain, as if they were uninvited guests, constantly pleading for them to leave. “Oh-no” was the term I used to describe this relationship, an expression of my desire to escape from those undesirable thoughts and emotions.

However, over time, I’ve come to recognize the importance of accepting all aspects of myself, both the positive and negative. To help me visualize this acceptance, I’ve chosen to personify my negative side as “her,” emphasizing that neither the positive nor the negative solely defines who I am. Instead, they are two distinct components of my being, each serving a purpose.

I now view my positive and negative sides as a pair of twins, each deserving of equal love and attention. This metaphor has been instrumental in shifting my perspective, allowing me to understand the value of nurturing both aspects of myself. Like the perpetual movement of clock hands, one twin moves clockwise, while the other moves counterclockwise. They are both essential to the rhythm of life and growth.

This newfound love for my negative side has revolutionized my daily living. By embracing the duality within me, I have been able to maintain a sense of balance and understanding. I no longer fear or reject the negative aspects of my nature; rather, I hold her hand, acknowledging her presence and importance in my life.

In conclusion, my journey from an “oh-no” relationship to a loving acceptance of my darker side has been transformative. By treating both my positive and negative sides as twins, I’ve learned to love and appreciate the complexity and richness of my entire self. This perspective has allowed me to live a more authentic and fulfilling life, unafraid to confront and embrace all aspects of my being.

Author: John Rector

John Rector is an AI Futurist who predicted the next word in business™, starting with his notable paper from 2015, "Mommy, What's a Cashier?" Drawing upon 40 years of experience in the practical applications of high technology, he assists clients in converting uncertainty into strategic advantages within a one-to-six-year framework. With leadership roles including IBM executive and co-founder of e2open, he has a diverse and impactful background. In the AI sector, he has set benchmarks through his contributions to Mind Media Group and Florrol, pioneering AI-based services and content generation. His investment initiative, Waterway Ventures, is committed to advancing promising AI startups. His creative ventures include founding Bodaro and graphic design studio Palm ❤️. In education, he has launched Nextyrn, which uses AI for personalized learning experiences, and in art, he leads Potyn, an initiative using AI to create bespoke pieces. His ever-expanding portfolio features companies like Nozeus, Infinia, Blacc Ink, and Maibly. Operating from Charleston, SC, his current focus involves partnering with individuals and enterprises to develop innovative business models and processes for the rapidly approaching age of AGI.

2 thoughts on “Loving Both

  1. Kathy Chakides Gaffos says:

    I’m enjoying this introspective aspect and the creativity borne of it…👏💖

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